Srinath Nalluri, Most Viewed Writer in Behavioral, Social & Human Psychology
Once upon a time, there was one middle-aged man working in a reputed company.
He was of the belief ‘Work is Life. Company is Sacred. Boss is God.’
He never took a single medical leave in the past twenty years. He always wanted to give his best output and make his boss happy. Even when he was given work on short notice, he used to complete it to perfection by staying late at work. Some days, he used to even skip lunch to finish the work on time.
His family missed him a lot, yet he didn’t care.
Years later, he died due to stroke.
His colleagues came and mourned for him. His boss got a garland and stood there for 5.5 minutes. Then everybody left.
The next day, some other person took over his place and things went on.
Now, that man in the first story had a son.
He saw from close what his father went through.
So when he started work, he was fixated about certain things. He left work at 6.00 sharp. He never attended calls or emails on weekends, unless very important.
He spent weekends with his family, took holidays occasionally and also used his free time to pursue gardening.
His philosophy was ‘Work is just one part of life. Company is one normal institution. Boss is also another employee.’
People around him didn’t like this behavior, but when they realised he wasn’t fired, company still kept him and paid him the same as others, they too started to do the same thing.
Overtime—around a generation later—it became normal.
So, why are divorces becoming common?
It also follows the same pattern.
The people who took divorces initially, though went through lot of discomforts—from society, parents, children, stigma, they survived.
So, they lived long enough to show the life they lived is much better or at least, no less than bearing an abusive marriage or incompatible relationship.
They proved that
- Marriage is not life. It is only a part of life.
- Your partner is as equal as you in a relationship. So you needn’t bear with him or her forcibly.
- Your life is more sacred than marriage.
So, many found this convincing and liberating. Hence they followed it.
This thought-process was further enhanced by the increase in female labour workforce and the financial independence, the decline in social stigma, and acceptance in the society.
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